On Friday, my friend and co-worker Mandy told me something very important. Something true that I had just never put into words for myself:
“Emily, you are no one‘s Manic Pixie Dream Girl.”(This was said after I explained MPDG to her. And I might have been dressed like a Lumineer.)
This is true for 3 reasons –
- I’m not manic,
- I am not, nor will I ever be, pixie-sized, and
- I am real.
And yet – and yet – this keeps happening.
Do you know how exhausting it is to be the MPDG? Do you know how painful it is?
Guys, just stop. It’s disrespectful. It’s false.
It’s a sham.
So I’ll make you a deal, guys. If you can grow up and grow a pair and stop projecting your fantasy girls onto all of us real women,
I’ll stop expecting you all to be Lloyd Doblers.